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Telling, listening, sharing his desires and tastes… This is the secret of an agreement lasting love. But we are taken by the newspaper, the…

Telling, listening, sharing his desires and tastes… This is the secret of an agreement lasting love. But we are taken by the newspaper, stress and lack of time, really communicate with each other is often easier said… than done. However, it is possible to improve dialogue and even take advantage of the disputes, as explained Yvonne Bonissol-Poncet, a clinical psychologist.

Never stop talking

At first, we love to remake the world for two hours, late into the night. It shares with the other tastes, his desires, his vision of life, the couple… But over time, these conversations tend to be increasingly rare, and it becomes difficult to find even a moment to talk in the race against time that we live every day. Spread the word: the lack of time is enemy number one of many couples stressed, anxious and tired.”It feeds the routine,” explained Yvonne Bonissol-Poncet, psychoclinicienne. She said”get to talk requires to be creative.” So for starters, why not create an opportunity for dialogue on a daily basis? During the walk to the market on Sunday morning, a glass after work, before going to bed… Every couple invent the ritual that suits him best.

But beware: you can chat for hours with someone without really talking. Often caught in the newspaper, you end up talking more about his problems with work, bills to pay, as self, other, or relationship. But, really communicate, it is also telling. Evoking his tastes, desires, needs… The opportunity to surprise the other, to develop projects together, oh so important in a relationship. And avoid, after a few years, having to make this sad observation that”it has nothing to say,” often mean the extinction of love. So pleased to find we speak!

“You have to constantly eat, be an active agent within the couple, and not wait for it to come from the other, adds Yvonne Bonissol-Poncet. This means being curious, to grow, make plans, to feel the thrill of being in constant evolution, to challenge… And then share these things with each other.”One condition, however: the couple, listening must be reciprocal.”The other must be able to hear. Everyone must be attentive to the needs and desires of his companion or his girlfriend, and continues, over time, to be in the acceptance of others, generous to him. A couple is to maintain as a person.”

Doser silences

Who has not cherished the dream of being understood (e) of his or her beloved (e) without having to utter a single word? And that has never been sorely disappointed (e)? Love is blind, says the proverb, but no soothsayer.”It is a myth, an illusion, launches Yvonne Bonissol-Poncet. Like the idea that one does not need to talk because we love. This is false. It is necessary to express themselves, to say…”And if it is important sometimes to know to be together without necessarily talking, careful not to confuse these with other silences that translate more of the boredom, resentment, sadness… Even in silence, we must be careful to remain in the open, in sharing with others. Because small sentences like”Why you do not speak?”Or” Tell me what you think”are probably a sign of silence which is probably more accomplice if one wants to think so…

Speaking of the couple together

An inventory of the couple… Those words probably make more of a shudder at the thought of endless hours spent fretting, to question the relationship, even, to argue. Yes, these discussions allow people to discuss things that annoy. Above all, they are, for the couple the opportunity to make a route point.”Many couples end up in the grip of each other, said Yvonne Bonissol-Poncet. They no longer love but the relationship because they like the idea of??being a couple is safe. There he is, every year on the anniversary of the encounter, for example, ask the other if he agrees to continue. To a point on his desire to recall past feelings, talking about his plans…”A ritual to establish when the couple also goes well. And a good way to restore communication when it is blocked.”A trade down can result in verbal abuse, or of silence, silence. This is to avoid getting bogged down in a situation monologue worthy of the theater of the absurd.”

Speaking of torque, it also means asking questions, to oneself or to both. Some examples, proposed by Yvonne Bonissol-Poncet.

Is there a gap between the idea that we think of the couple and their lived reality?

Do we still talk about love?

The humor and the game they have their place in the couple?

Do we give the time to another?

Do we always want to surprise each other?

Am I able to keep what am without sacrificing myself?

Do we want to continue a long way together?

Benefit disputes

It is normal for couples to argue, even healthy to yell at. This is proof that”the couple is alive.” The common feature of most conflicts? A communication problem.”The domestic scenes are there to put the record straight, Yvonne analysis Bonissol-Poncet. They take place when the couple could not talk before. Everyone leaves to explode his emotions and frustrations. Conflicts are emotional regulators. Valves. We can take no more, they say, and the couple feels better.”This is why often you get into a confrontation knowing full well that could defuse tensions in time.

But not all couples have the same approach to the conflict. While some seem never to compete, other hand, spend their time bickering.”When we are in constant conflict, we are in a dominant-subordinate relationship, which will submit that, where we will constantly test the limits of the other and the bond that unites us to him, says the psychoclinicienne. Conversely, a couple that never quarrels is in a dependent relationship. They fled the conflict. It is overadapted to another. And because we are afraid of losing it, nothing is said.”But silence his anger often results to the other remote. With, as corollaries, a growing indifference, a decreased desire…

Express anger before the disagreement from escalating into conflict: the issue here. Just knowing that certain attitudes are bound to derail the situation. Better and avoid absolutes (such as”you think that you always”), the decisions made solo (“this weekend, we go to my mother”), to be in critical (we he prefers the suggestion), to flee the confrontation… And, in general, to respond to hot.”You have come to listen to the other, to avoid being front, i.e. without condemnation, adds Yvonne Bonissol-Poncet.” And if talking is too difficult, why not write? At text messages and emails, there are countless ways to communicate. Not to mention the letter, of course!

The problem is that often each stick to his guns.”There comes a time where to put his ego aside. Often it is the one that has the least that the first step. And which is usually also the one who suffers most.” To each then to mend our ways. And admit that the conflict is resolved. As well argue, is learning to turn the page.

Yvonne is psychoclinicienne Bonissol-Poncet. It is notably the author of Bullying in the family and Betrayal in the family. Latest book: Focus on love. All these books are published by Dangles.

China reached a turning point in its economic development and will have to implement significant reforms, with a growth rate that will halve in 20 years, experts have said Monday the World Bank and government.

Having achieved an average 10% annual growth over the past 30 years, the second largest economy must change its growth model, previously focused on investment and exports, said President of the World Bank Robert Zoellick at the presentation of the study “China: 2030″.

“The need for reform is indisputable because China is now at a crossroads in its development,” Zoellick said at a press conference in Beijing.

“The current growth model the country is not sustainable. This is not the time to muddle through, as you can, it’s time to anticipate and adapt to major changes in the international arena and in World and national economies, “said Zoellick.

Liu Shijin, vice minister of the Center for Development Research of the Government, who prepared the report with the World Bank, also stressed the need for reforms to China’s economy still growing at about 9% annually, but will see its growth slow to around 5 or 6% in the next 20 years.

The document received the support of Vice President Xi Jinping and Vice Premier Li Keqiang, who should, unless dramatic turn of events, succeed President Hu Jintao and Premier Wen Jiabao when the process of political succession will be completed in March 2013 in China.

But the conclusions of the paper will probably come up against strong resistance from those profiting from the current model, Zoellick warned.

“The reforms are not easy, often it results in the release,” said the president of the international institution.

Resistance could come from including state enterprises, the report wants to reduce the privileges and economic weight.

More than 10 years after China’s accession to the World Trade Organization, the latter always benefit from restrictions on foreign investment in strategic sectors such as automotive, energy, finance and telecommunications.

They also benefit from advantageous financing, while their foreign competitors complain of a lack of transparency in the Chinese market access.

The report also advocates better access to credit for SMEs is that the Chinese banking system is governed by market rules and calls for liberalization of interest rates so that the second world economy “completes its transition to an economy market. ”

Among other recommendations, the document calls for increased innovation, improve social protection and incentives to protect the environment, as well as a better guarantee of land rights of peasants.

Such “concrete measures” are necessary while China wants to base its economic growth on the “stability,” said Li Wei, the minister in charge of the Centre for Development Research.

Despite the debt crisis in Europe and the persistent weakness of the U.S. economy, Zoellick played down the risk of economic disaster in China. He sees the “stress points that will strengthen over time rather than a crisis” for the Chinese economy.

Only a few months before summer, and we see them: those small unsightly fat deposits! In an attempt to smooth skin, you’ll have to deal with this cellulite!

When our fat cells store more than they déstockent (sign that we eat too much and we do not spend enough), the balance shifts to the right and the pounds accumulated and concentrated in the worst places in our figure: size for men (love handles), thighs, buttocks and hips for women. ‘Scheduled’ to make reservations, they are the first victims of cellulite . The height of bad luck, lose a few pounds and gently return to sport is not always enough, because these deep fat are more difficult to dislodge. Hope to reduce water retention and help eliminate toxins, it is imperative boost local microcirculation. This is precisely the aim of slimming creams, whether commercial or manufactured ‘home’.

1) Rub ten minutes after the shower

More effective than a cream anti- cellulite massage is your best friend! Ideally, knead all the skin folds that run under the fingers, for 10 minutes each day, preferably after a shower, from the bottom up. The goal is to decrease edema and tissue infiltration by reproducing manually what some apparatus used in aesthetic medicine and combines aspiration, palpate and roll (endermologie).

2) Practice for ten minutes of exercises targeted

All endurance sports mobilize fat reserves, they are unavoidable. It’s even better if you are interested in the body part in the grip of cellulite . For example, to work your glutes, exercise key is to get on all fours, resting on the forearm, then straighten the leg back in the amount as high as possible. And to melt the saddlebags must be on your side and lift the top leg keeping it taut, then make scissors. In practice ten minutes every day without exception, to hope for a result especially visible after 3 weeks of dedicated effort!

3) Make a poultice once a week

To facilitate drainage and purify the skin, make a poultice with 8 tablespoons of green clay powder and pour 10 drops of essential oil (ET) cypress green, 10 drops of essential oils of lavender and 10 drops ET of lemon (beware, the ET-cons are indicated in pregnancy and breastfeeding). Also, take a dozen leaves of English ivy (untreated, rinsed well) that you boil in 200 ml of water. Once cooled and filtered, pour the decoction thus obtained on the green clay, to have a smooth paste. Apply on cellulite and leave 20 minutes before rinsing.

4) Put together your own massage oil

To prevent the cellulite does not settle where it is not too visible, massage morning and night with this mixture of oils to make your own (forbidden to pregnant and lactating women): 20 ounces of oil olive oil 5 cl calophylla, 25 drops of essential oils (HE) of lemon grass, 25 drops of essential oils of cypress, 25 drops of essential oils of grapefruit, 25 drops of essential oils of lemon, 25 drops of HE ravensara and 5 drops of essential oils of peppermint.

5) Apply your products at the best time

Whether it’s a massage oil ‘house’ or cream anti cellulite market, the ideal is to get just after a hot shower or a massage, when the skin temperature is a increased somewhat. The active ingredients penetrate better and more quickly they arrive on the critical locus, the better!

Used in France too, pesticides pose risks not only for our health, but also an irreversible impact on the land and biodiversity. Strawberries, peppers or lettuce contain high doses. Their consumption is dangerous to health? Washing, peeling, or selection of organic produce, what is the best alternative?

Depending on the thickness of the skin, the texture of the flesh, and the interaction of molecules with one another, fruits and vegetables are differently affected by  pesticides . Generally, studies show that the celery, pepper or fisheries are among the most polluted foods.

Here are two lists from the study on the capacity of pesticide residues in fruits and vegetables 47 of the Environmental Working Group (EWG), an environmental NGO based in Washington.

The 12 fruits and vegetables most contaminated:

Fisheries; Apples; Peppers; Celery; Nectarines; Strawberries; Cherries: Kale; Lettuce; Grapes; Carrots; Pears…

The 15 fruits and vegetables the least contaminated:

Onions; lawyers; sweet corn; pineapple; mango; asparagus; green peas; kiwi; sprouts; eggplant; papaya; watermelon; broccoli; tomatoes; sweet potatoes…

This study based on 87,000 tests was performed between 2000 and 2007. The findings show that a person consumes daily 12 fruits and vegetables among the most contaminated ingurgiteraient average of 10 pesticides per day! Instead, eat fruits and vegetables 15 least contaminated exposes a person to less than 2 pesticides per day on average. What is already difficult to accept. Pesticides enter the body

In March 2011, the Institut National de Veille Sanitaire (INVS) has published a disturbing study on chemical contamination of the French, whose blood, urine and hair are full. Specifically, 90% of the population is contaminated by pesticides like organophosphates. Levels of organochlorine pesticides (including, for example DDT or lindane) are “generally low”, the main reason being that their use is now very limited.

However, a wide variety of pesticides has been recognized by the scientific community as having toxic effects on humans, causing disturbances of the nervous system,  carcinogenic effects , effects on the hormonal system or irritation of the skin, eyes and lungs. However, according to the Observatory on Pesticide Residues, government mission led by Afsset (National Agency of Health Security), s e large number of products and factors of diseases suspected of being related to pesticide residues, as some cancer, complicating the establishment of a link between the diseases mentioned, and pesticides.

A study by the European Agency for Food Safety Authority (EFSA) published in 2010 identified 365 different pesticide residues in fruits and vegetables consumed in Europe and 76 in cereals.

According to the EFSA report, 3, 5% of the samples had pesticide residues exceeding the maximum residue limits (MRLs). It also reveals that the presence of pesticides is higher in products imported from countries outside the European Union (7.6%) than in samples grown in the EU (2.4%).

However, EFSA considers it appropriate to clarify that the presence of pesticides in food, or exceeding authorized limits, should not unduly alarmed, citing a “potential risk” and “rare cases” of contamination hazardous to health . For EFSA, only a large amount of consumer products with pesticide levels the highest can be dangerous.

These tips are very vague and many unknowns. If a  daily tolerable intake (ADI) is established for each pesticide, what about the “cocktail effect” denounced by many scientists? To date we igore that together produce combinations of these tissues. Here is that Professor De-kheere Rush of the University of Ghent wrote in a study: “The ADI values ​​are not accurate, but estimates based on experimental toxicological data of a pesticide. This approach does not account the possibility of synergistic effects when exposure occurs simultaneously in two or more pesticides. “

Far from “greenwashing” of some major brands sold in supermarkets, the company hygiene products and cosmetics Body Nature, based in Deux-Sèvres (79), is involved in consumer health and the planet, and this 40 years …

French manufacturer of everyday products, Laboratoire Body Nature Poitevin is a family business founded in 1972 by Gilles Guilbaud and his wife Maria Theresa Body. As its name does not necessarily indicate the  Laboratoire Body Nature just does not make products cosmetic body. Its range of ecological and organic produce also includes cleaners for home and products for soil enrichment, in the garden. Polish, laundry powder, dishwashing liquid, fabric softener, insecticide, growth promoter … Body Nature offers all everyday products, as those green and / or bio!

“Beyond the bio”: buildings and eco-friendly products …

If part of the company slogan is “beyond organic”, it’s because the company does not stop at the mere approach of labeling its products. Indeed, on the field Body Nature, old farm family, everything is done to protect the environment: use of  renewable energy , natural resource economics, local eco-designed, preserving biodiversity, biodynamic crops and carbon to implement actions to reduce carbon emissions . The site of Cypress has also been sponsored by the explorer Jean-Louis Etienne , very invested in  environmental protection and the fight against global warming.

The eco-advanced design allows the laboratory to minimize the impact of products on the environment, to ensure product economical to use, effective, promote responsible consumption, integrate biological raw materials and innovative formulas. Finally, Body Nature offers products that meet the demanding specifications of Ecocert but Demeter, Bio Cosmos or consistency.

… And the refusal of the sale in supermarkets

But the peculiarity of this laboratory lies elsewhere: all products distributed by Body Nature are closer to users, through the home sale. ” The social and societal values ​​are integral to the approach of laboratory “says the lab on its website.  Thus, it is to promote well-being of employees and direct relationships with consumers and suppliers that the company Body Nature has chosen this means of selling unusual.

“The choice of home sales has emerged from the beginning. It allows us to clearly explain our approach, how to use products highly concentrated in active ingredients, and develop a trusting relationship with our customers. With these friendly moments spent at home, we offer a different approach to consumption, “says Olivier Guilbaud, President of the Laboratory. Besides selling in stores and mail order and distance selling direct to home is experiencing a Real growth in France. With 688 advisors distributors who distribute products every day, it’s more than 150,000 homes daily sensitized to environmental protection and health of users, Body welcomes Nature.

Counselors and vending present benefit information and tools to continuously ensure a good product knowledge, usage and materials used. Thus, says that every month, more than 55 meetings were held throughout France to establish a permanent link between headquarters and its sales force.

How to get their products?

However, this distribution has some disadvantages. If the consumer wishes to discover the products of Nature Body, it must participate in an “appointment for the planet” with an advisor region. On the  Nature of Body site, a google map lets you know the counselor nearest to your home. We must then register to attend a forthcoming demonstrations organized near you.

In an environment of mistrust vis-à-vis a globalized economic system and the use of environmental arguments, which are the French in sustainable consumption?

Here are the results of the latest annual barometer Ethicity “The French and sustainable consumption” in partnership with ADEME and published in late March 2011.

Daily behaviors ingrained

The sustainable development remains a need for 71% of French. If the dimension of environmental protection is cited as a priority, the economic dimension progresses; for just over 10%, sustainable development induces a new form of economic growth (+3 percentage points from 2010).

On a daily basis, this translates into more integrated behavior, motivated by the search for savings: 80% of respondents have introduced in their habits and behaviors to reduce or better manage their energy consumption (+ 4 points ).

A consumer looking for products of greater quality …

In consumption, the individual seeks to consume more, in a health goal above all: For 63% of French, health (their own and their relatives) is thus part of their three main concerns. Therefore, they are nearly 36% believed that the argument “(these products) are better for your health” emerged as the first criterion for purchase, at the expense of the benefits for the preservation of the planet (27%).

It is in this context that the trend of “consume differently” is emerging: – 45% of the French, eat responsibly, otherwise it is consumed (10 points compared to 2010) – 51% said they preferred this year more sustainable products. (including 13% who said they buy less, however). – 33% pragmatic consume less and buying cheap.

… and clear and accessible information

Defiance vis-à-vis the speech marks, the French want to have a clear and reliable information that enables them to make an informed choice in their purchases: A simple and visible information – 56% consider it is difficult to understand information on sustainable products – 62% believe that the products “Sustainable Development” are not easily / quickly spotted. Information that enables better traceability The origin of raw materials and place of manufacturing are the first two expected information on product labels. The majority of French associate sustainable consumption to local manufacturing (51% cite it in the first or second criterion). Further evidence of the quality of products 60% of them (15 points vs. 2010) would be more convinced of buy more sustainable products if they had concrete evidence of their quality.

A desire to act “local” rather than “global”

Global environmental issues no longer rise as French interest:

- 49% of them are still very sensitive when they were 55% in 2008. consumption of local products has become one of the modes of action in favor of sustainable development largely appreciated by the French. They are also 24% prefer regular locally manufactured products.

Michel Barnier, European Commissioner for Internal Market and Services, announced the measures it intends to put in place to supervise the rating agencies.

Hedwig Chevrillon: You have announced measures Tuesday to supervise the rating agencies. Bruno Lemaire, the Minister of Agriculture, said the government was "War against the financial markets". Is this the case for you?

Michel Barnier: I am in action, as should all who are around the G20 table and have committed, not against the financial markets, but for the master to be free to restore their sovereignty but political sovereignty which must remain in a democracy first. I am in action for transparency when it does not exist, for rules when they were détricotées for the responsibility that must be fulfilled everywhere.

But it’s not a war, not even for Italy and France?

We need markets, but markets that work on sound and that are in the service of the economy. This is the very clear framework for action. Not a market, not a financial player, not a financial product, not a territory should escape effective regulation and supervision real. This is the goal.

The differential between the rates of Germany and France, two countries yet all recorded two triple A, he means that France is not triple A?

Today, France retains its triple A, it does everything to keep and maintain its credibility. The measures announced by the President and Prime Minister are extremely important, they are going in the right direction.

The Commission said they are still insufficient. She still seriously tackled the program …

The Commission still recognized and welcomed the work. Moreover, we must evaluate it. Beyond the previous savings plan, control of budgetary expenditure, there are actually a different assessment, more pessimistic on the part of the Commission, according to our statistics of growth in 2012 lower than government projections . In any case, efforts must continue.

You will ask the European Supervisory Authority Financial Markets (Esma) more power to oversee the rating of sovereign debt …

I am preparing a series of extremely rigorous for several months, I did a lot of consultations. Rating agencies have a special responsibility. That is why the error by S & P last week is serious: we can see immediately, it has an influence, it adds to the instability or volatility.

So we will act on several points, not just the transparency of the ratings on sovereign debt. The key point is that I want to reduce dependence on notes. The main point of my propositions in all prudential regulations, with regard to insurance, banks and other market players, we will reduce these exorbitant and excessive references to ratings, which are present in the texts.

So there will be real action to reduce this dependence?

There are already in the text that I submitted on July 20 on the capitalization and prudential measures for the 8300 European banks, the so-called measures of Basel. There is already planned to reduce this dependence and that banks are able to do so themselves, first, their own assessments. We will also act on the competition: we will increase competition in the rating agencies.

It means creating other rating agencies?

They already exist! There are three major global agencies, but agencies, who must now register with ESMA to work on European soil, are in number 23. Some of them could be grouped. To increase this competition, we also expected, although it must be confirmed by the European Commission, there is a mandatory rotation for issuers who need to note, agencies who work for them.

It would be considered to prohibit the rating of sovereign debt. By what criteria?

This is not about to ban the rating, it is not breaking the thermometer! This is not the thermometer that causes fever, but it must work properly, we take the temperature at the right time for it does not accentuate fever.

I noticed that some notes fell anyhow, without warning, including Greece and Portugal. To avoid this, we will ask Esma can temporarily suspend for two months at a time it deems appropriate, the notation if it is to increase the instability or irrationality.

How is it technically possible?

Agencies under the authority of Asma will not be entitled, if Esma decides to make a notation of some countries, for a limited time, which are under international support program or the IMF or the European Union .

Paul Amsellem, General Manager of Nokia France, returns to the launch of Lumia 800 and its alliance with Microsoft.

Microsoft and Nokia have learned from their past failures:

"Innovation at Microsoft is very important and Nokia too. The two came together, why? Precisely because they had lost the battle there are two or three years. This is because they have failed today they came together to release a product well received by the market with a price that is competitive. "

Besides Apple and Google, it is necessary to have a third ecosystem:

"My vision as an entrepreneur in the medium term is to say that there is need for a third ecosystem. You Apple, which is very dominant. Telecom operators today are getting a bit fed up. Why? Because they do not share prices and services. There is nothing, there is no sharing. And Android (the operating system launched by Google, ed), ultimately is not a free OS if it: look at the trial. What is the third ecosystem? We are taking the bet that it will be Windows Phone. Telecom operators and distributors to take this gamble there. They need it. "

The history of Nokia remains to be written:

"In 1997, a" Time Magazine "is:" Apple, give us back our money! "In 1997, Apple is dead! Look, it’s extremely interesting. Is it now, someone will ask a question about whether Apple is dead or not? Certainly not. The chance of Nokia is to have a second chance. The alliance between Nokia and Microsoft, which may eventually allow us to consider that the smartphone market, Nokia will take market share interesting with Microsoft. "

Peter Berger, CEO of Eiffage, discusses the case of Carlton in Lille that involves the head of a subsidiary of the group in the North.

The group Eiffage is not directly concerned by the complaint of the prosecution of Lille:

"What to remember about this case is that at no time, and person, group Eiffage is covered. This is the floor of Lille who filed a complaint against one of our staff.

I asked that an internal investigation be expedited immediately. The survey showed that our employee had used money from the company to make trips abroad, in particular, that have nothing to do with the objects of his business. We have sanctioned and the investigation showed also that this case was an isolated case and it did not concern the rest of the region or group Eiffage. "

How he discovered this property:

"We discovered this case through the floor of Lille who filed a complaint and the investigation I have found that expedited the company, headed by David Roquet (the director of the subsidiary involved, ie) invoices and receiving David himself issued Pug expense that were not related to the objects of his business. "

Which targeted the expense?

"There are several procedures in our co-signers. What to remember is that the expense is expense "go anywhere", I would say, on which there is no indication that the facts alleged against David Roquet. It is normal for co-signers sign expense by an amount that was not abnormal and which involved visits to restaurants in particular. "